[EXTRA] Repost: Because we will not stand by
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Hello there, Are you part of the eRepublik community that spends a lot of time on IRC? Do you read forums and ingame shouts? Are you willing to speak up? If so I would like you to read this article and stop to think.
After seeing this advertising video on YouTube today and also reading about how it is stirring up quite the commotion amongst Twitter, Facebook and other social media, I am ready to set my maybes aside. This has given me a push to speak up in our little eWorld that we have created. It is my hope and belief that many with me are willing to step up. There is only one way that we can beat the bullies, and that is by taking a stand and not being afraid to speak up, to stand between the bullies and the victims.
Cyber-bullying involves the use of information and communication technologies such as e-mail, cell phone and pager text messages, instant messaging (IM), defamatory personal Web sites, and defamatory online personal polling Web sites, to support deliberate, repeated, and hostile behavior by an individual or group, that is intended to harm others.
In all honesty I must say that the erepublik community isn’t the worst place for this sort of cyber-bullying. Most of it is politics anyway. Still it happens and one time is one time too many.
Nicknames are mostly chosen to fit our own profiles. Enough times we have asked the question, “What does your nickname stand for?” Nicknames give us clues about the people behind them. To know this is the first step toward acknowledging that there is a living, feeling person behind the nick. It is not a robot without feelings that is typing on a computer screen. These nicknames are just the replacement of the masks we wear when dealing with people face to face. Although bullying is done on the work floor, in school, in all places where we put people together, it is more visible and condemned than cyber bullying.
Let’s face it people, most of us are geeks. Some are more geeky than others but we all play this online sandbox game and many of us are gaming freaks. Some of us make trolling an art form; others think they are smart enough to be a troll but aren’t. Those people, ladies and gents, are the worst kind of wannabee trolls, the ones that set out to pester people because maybe they are not as smart as their victims, or maybe they are just a little more geeky.
Imagine yourself to be lonely. On the work floor, people don’t talk with you during lunch break. At best, they ignore you. You come home, open IRC, and search for someone to talk to. Instead of a nice conversation you get laughed at because your ideas are not mainstream. Again, you feel you are alone. Nobody cares to be your friend, and after some time you will really believe you are worthless. Why should you walk the earth when nobody cares? Here we are talking grownups but amongst young adults and kids this sort of thing is even more frequent. School yard placements, status is everything. I know this as I have two kids, ages 14 and 13. They talk about which groups there are: The cool kids, the almost cool kids, the kids who are tolerated, and then the outcasts. This last group of kids is highly active on the internet as they have little to no social life going on. Do me a favour and search in Google under ‘suicide after cyberbullying”.
Not so long ago a dear eFriend of mine was the subject of a hate campaign against him.
I asked Konrad to say a few words about it:
“I play eRepublik for the community. As a gay person with no support from my family, eRep is one great resource for me as it is one of the few places I really can be myself and with others who are like me. There are a lot of allies online as well which is a great resource. Sadly, not all people are nice and supportive.
In eBelgium for example, it is being PTOed by the HOPE and PANDA party. I am a strong voice against their actions and movement. Instead of dealing with ingame stuff, they went personal and attack my gender. I received PMs like “For 50 Euros, you can suck my cock homo” to comments like “Be a man for once.” This PTO group made many pictures referring to me calling me the Anal Rocket to other extremely inappropriate themes. These comments and pictures were both in the media and in the eBE forums.
At first, I thought I can just ignore it. It is just some stupid kids that is making some comments here or there. However, it did not stop. They got more and more abusive. A lot of the comments starts to hurt and I really got depressed. The comments stuck with me and while it is stupid, it really did hurt. It was really demoralizing they really make me feel pathetic. They really made me feel subhuman. I was angry at the community as well. It was really lame that while they agree the comments are hurtful etc, they did not do too much about it. Even with the case, it took a really long time for there to be a verdict. (see below) I really need my closest friends for support.
(http://www.erepbelgium.com/t9218-2013-04harassment-case#184801)
This is why cyber-bullying is really lame. It is hurtful and mean spirited. Even today, they do make mean comments here or there. It is not right and it is totally unjust. While they admit it makes them feel “macho,” it is nothing macho about bullying people. In the end, it makes them much smaller than they really are. So I hope there are a lot of big people in this game. For it takes big people to debate issues and policies and not attack and bully people into submission.”
Cyber Bullying Statistics
One in Ten Children Worldwide Experiences Cyber Bullying
Bullying Victims are 2 to 9 Times More Likely to Commit Suicide
25% of Kids Don't Tell Anyone About Bullies
Cyber Bullying Has Actually Gone Down (indicates the importance of campaigning)
56% Report That Cyber Bullying Has Real-World Consequences
39% of Social Network Users Experience Cyber Bullying
I talk with a lot with people on IRC. I have my own reasons for being online so much. Others have reasons, too. Amongst one of the biggest reasons people spend time on internet chat rooms is to seek company. Often they feel they do not fit in well with the real world. They seek freedom. They try to be themselves and open up in chat rooms, as it is deemed safe. We see again the misconception of hiding behind a nickname. As much as the bullies feel protected by the anonymous nature of nicknames, the ones who are setting themselves up for it make the same mistake.
Yes you read this right although the people who get singled out are victims, they too have a responsibility. They have the responsibility to fight back, to speak out loud about what they go through.
Bullying and cyberbullying will likely always exist in some form or another. Verbal abuse is the most common form of bullying done around the world. Without the threat of physical violence, it is important for caring people to be supportive of all the community members so the victims know where to turn if they are bullied. Often, having someone at hand simply to talk about bullying concerns is enough to help, ignore and overcome it.
Never respond to harassing responses
Don't send your picture or personal information to individuals you don't know on the Internet
Remember- the Internet isn't a private place. Anything you say, or pictures that you share, can be sent all over the Internet to anyone, everywhere.
Save any suspected emails or text messages- you may need them as evidence later if the situation escalates
If you are a victim of cyber or a computer bully you have several options to get help. First, go to a trusted friend for help before the situation escalates. A channel moderator is your first line of defense to end harassment. Don't give up until someone agrees to help you. If you are being bullied through your Instant Messaging system ingame notify erepublik administrators, ask for a block on the ID of the person or persons harassing you. If it is happening in a chat room, notify the moderator of that channel.
For eRepublik players, and mainly for IRC users, we have set a channel where you can find people who are trusted and is also just a place to chill out. Everybody is welcome for some laughs and conversations.
You can join #echillroom on Rizon.
Players who are willing to step up in rough situations and who can be trusted will have ops in the channel so they can easily be spotted. Hanging around in the channel will make it possible for you to learn to know them and trust these people.
Finally, I want to thank all people who have helped to make this project possible. MaryamQ for the grammar and spelling checks, Salvatore3 as advisor and the different people who have translated and published it in other countries. A special thanks to MaartenW for supporting this and Konrad for his courage.
Last but not least the two most awesome graphics guys in the UK, Acroc & Rory.
Yours truly,
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United Kingdom: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323294/1/20
Pakistan: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323305/1/20
Colombia: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323319/1/20
Austria: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323346/1/20
Australia: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323357/1/20
Ukraine: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323421/1/20
Serbia: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323410/1/20
Belgium: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323424/1/20
Hungary: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323403/1/20
Netherlands: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323440/1/20
United States of America (USA): http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323441/1/20
Switzerlan
😛http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323449/1/20
Greece: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323451/1/20
New Zealan
😛http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323457/1/20
Turkey: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323506/1/20
Portugal: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323543/1/20
Brazil: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323580/1/20
Germany: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323537/1/20
Bolivia: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323629/1/20
Taiwan: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323712/1/20
Indonesia: http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2323830/1/20
Comments
First Denied!
Like always
I never liked trolling and I never will. I cannot say it doesn't exist either.
I learned to ignore it, or with a biological analogy, I have become immune to this type of human mental disease
death to all troll !!!
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Am i the only one who doesn't understand this article chain?
So, a homosexual dude got called "a fag". So what?
What's all the melodrama about?
Because some people don't have as high a resilience to bullying as you do.
I actually know people here in eJapan who have LEFT due to LGBT-related cyberbullying.
We're all here to play a good game, let's keep it clean 😉.
There are far more hetero people getting attacked without reason in this game. I don't hear them complain and whine about it and write pathetical articles about how unfair the world is.
Whatever topic is used to bully, it's still bad when it's a personal attack that extends into reality.
Ofc there is going to be some political name-calling here, but that's just politics. Politics aren't going to be clean. You don't have to defame someone for who they are IRL to work politically though (ie: Serbian, Jewish, Female, Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, LGBT, Old, Young, Hungarian, American, Black, White, Asian, etc etc).
Victim mentality is an acquired (learned) personality trait in which a person tends to regard him or herself as a victim of the negative actions of others, and to think, speak and act as if that were the case - even in the absence of clear evidence.
Victim Mentality is also a trait that people shouldn't be pushed towards acquiring either. There's no reason to purposefully spur it into existence.
Big vote!
I think the re-post is a good idea, there is an important message in this article.
Trolling ❤
newfags everywhere
Big vote!
I'll be spreading this as well as the YT clip.
well people will make fun of each other/harass people with whatever leverage they have and even if it is just your bad grammar or the times that you are online. sometimes like with some girls on the internets it is even partly "their fault":
- do they want to play anonymously like the most => no
- could they claim that they just play a female role ingame ("regardless" of their RL sex) => yes
but nevertheless some have "their coming out" but then complain about the negative effects
same here: Konrad is openly gay and some were making fun of him because of that - big deal. some of the "bullies" probably tie up their girlfriend and make all sorts of crazier stuff with her. difference is that no one here knows that...
Doing some digging, you're talking about Butjam actually right? (and Konrad Neumann's article)
He's not even a transsexual...I don't blame them for that action.
http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2311256/1/20
http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2311841/1/20
yes in response to the article of Butjam where he said that he is not transsexual (also this article in the economist http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2311246/1/20) there was a smaller debate going on about not only gays/transsexuals being harassed but also women if they have their "coming out" (=let people know that they are women in RL) like weird advances and often the "t!ts or gtfo" (that's why i posted the link to its real meaning)
Believe me Eisenmutter, I am quite aware of that...
I was actually having a conversation with a member of the Shinsengumi about that matter just last night. I have been asked "Tits or GTFO" more than once on here.../me sighs.
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wel with the 2pictures i linked you now know why
Moralfags
...Rude!
I love you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WviwYLZubSw
(Couldn't help it.)
>.>
Bad Rice, have some composure!
DAWWW you're so adorable.
Only a fag would be upset over some random words on the internet.
This is a much-needed article. Thank you Ahava for posting this. Don't mind the negative comments, and keep fighting the good fight.
In all seriousness, speakin as someone that had a huge problem with bullying IRL to the point I had to be separated from the rest of the student body for a couple months to prevent me from hitting the proverbial wall, I can honestly say the best advice anyone gave me ever was "Man up and ignore their bullshit." The real problem today isnt bullies imo(tho I do agree we need a ton less of it) its the "politically correct" mindset we live in and raise children in. Everyone tells them how special they are how wonderful and they are totally and completely unprepared for the reality of the real world. It crushes then when they suddenly encounter other 'special' and 'wonderful' people(or if you prefer, other spoiled little shits) that dont cater to their world view, or worse actively counter it(read bullying and insulting). Bullies have been around for thousands of years, its part of human nature, it isnt going away. Teach your kids how to handle douchebags, how to handle being called fat, ugly, weak, stupid, etc. The change has been in society's approach to child rearing not in the bullies nor the severity of it. The reality of the world we live in is, you are just a cog in the machine, employers dont care how 'special' mommy told you that you are. The world at large likely will never know your name. Teach yourself, your friends, your childeren to accept who and what you/they are, enjoy the changes you CAN make, the lives you DO affect. Realize you aren't a magical prince/princess destined to be special to the world. You are you, you have friends, family, a life, live it for yourself and those you care for. Ignore the masses that can't/won't/don't like that. Its a much more difficult lesson to teach, and its not as pretty as dreaming of the world full of special people living in harmony love and rainbows, but its real and will help them in the real world.
wordy much? /me hops off soap box and slinks back to his corner
Too much text for the idea you wanted to convey sigh.
well people get bent outta shape when you distill it down to 'Man up and move on with your life' or 'grow a thicker skin' but yeah... way too wall-o-text. But considering I have the 'been there done that' t-shirt collection, this is an issue I have rather strong opinions on
I can sum this up in one hashtag from the original youtube video.
#dontretaliate
http://tinyurl.com/qh9wwco
I agree. Dealing with people is just a part of life. But we should also act compassionately. The world doesn't have to be rainbow filled but mindless hate should not be tolerated either.
(I think the point of this article is more focused on disrupting societies pack mentality of inaction on the issue.)
tl;dr
I appreciate your forthright presentation. My own opinion is that calling abusive behavior "human nature" is a cop-out. It's a bit like saying that because it is instinctive it can always be excused. Nonetheless cruelty is cruelty. It does not become acceptable simply because it is accepted. It merely becomes invisible while remaining just as cruel.
The "reality" of a cruel world is a human creation, and frankly, humans deserve better and are capable of creating a much better reality. Heck, it used to be the norm for eJapan! 😁
we have very differing opinions then because it is human nature. You can do all you want to minimalize it but you cant get rid of it. Thus you need to be prepared/prepare your children to run smack into it
Exactly what is it that one can't get rid of? Bullying? That's quite simply false. Plenty of organizations have eradicated it.
Bullying only exists in families and schools that are unsupervised. If an authority figure is actually paying attention -- and does not look the other way about cruelty -- bullying is impossible. It's true that some corrupt authorities do tolerate hazing or bullying -- US military, I'm looking at you -- but that is a symptom of abuse, not a natural behavior.
It does actually get better all the time, as hazing, bullying and other cruelty is little by little rooted out, and those people who had at one time tolerated cruelty are shown -- not coerced to change their mind, but shown -- that when people mutually agree not to attack one another, there's a tangible improvement across the board in quality of life. It's actually harmful to a bully to keep putting others through trauma, since they cause a dysfunctional environment wherever they go. (Surprisingly, quite a few people don't realize this, even something that obvious.)
lol'd.
Voted.
Well written and relative.
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All that is written is true. And I say this by self experience, cyberbullying sometimes can be worst than RL bullying.