Speaker for the Dead
Etemenanki
This is of course in direct reference to the events that took place involving Tyler F Durden, but are not limited to them. This is more about my thoughts on tragedy and death in the end really.
Last night, just before I was heading off to bed, I read Addy's article where he discussed what he believes has actually transpired in regards to Tyler. Personally, I believe he is probably correct. Another way to look at it is that Tyler has stepped away from the game because it was becoming to much of a strain on his relationship, thereby “saving” Marla, a metaphor for saving their relationship. Anyways, this entire thing is all predicated on a single post in the forums, from a new account, by someone with a single post, no proof given. Maybe I am just old, but I grew up not trusting anything online. All in all it is beside the point in my mind though whether it is true or not..
What has often bothered me though was the constant and emphatic outpouring of those who look at the dead as people who instantly need to be venerated and given something akin to sainthood, white washing what they have done and only remembering the good, discarding the bad. When I was a child, I read a book, the name of which I have used for the title of this article. One of the concepts presented in the book is that we as a species can never overcome tragedy, loss or death without truly expressing our thoughts and feelings about those whom are dead. We all carry baggage and many of us refuse to kick that baggage to the curb when someone has died, as we now see it as being disrespectful to the dead to do so. This book taught me otherwise. I have always thought that if I died, I would like my friends and family to remember me for who I was, not who they wanted me to be. I do not want them to forget the bad, for without the bad, I am not truly me.
I have had my issues with Tyler in the past. I think he is far to aggressive, preferring to hit something really hard with a brick when all you needed to do was to talk to it, and the problem could be solved. He was a meddler, he would stick his nose into something that he shouldn’t, and then when you asked him to leave, he would yell and holler bloody murder. He is smart, politically skilled and a media master, but he is also a showman and manipulator in the worst of ways. My feelings towards Tyler were crystallized the day he took responsibility for turning Samuel de Champlain into a martyr so he could keep the Union Nationale down in that congressional election. If he wasn’t just making it up to boost his credibility and his ego, it was a reckless act that nearly split this country and only further fanned the flames of hatred, and pushed the French speaking sections of this country further against the wall. If he was lying, it only showed that he had no regard for truth in polishing his own image.
Now, on the other hand, the man certainly knew how to run a party in a way that worked. He built the CPF, and I doubt anyone will forget that for a long time. He helped Canada during the war, and helped it after the war, doing his duty as a politician, making sure things got back up and running as quickly as they could be. I was the first person to post in his article right after Canada fell when he called on every single Canadian to stand up and continue to fight, despite us not having a country anymore.
I talked to him one night about a game that both of us mutually played, Hearts of Iron 2, and he seemed like a reasonable guy once the veil was torn aside and the real man was allowed to show. It seems that many of the big problems that I had with him were a product of his image, not with the real him. He called me a genius in that exchange. 4 months later, when he lost the race to run what was left of the CNC, Genius was not what he called me. Sorry, but I can’t actually write it here, but it started with the letter F.
Wether you believe he is dead or simply has left the game, what I am trying to say is we all have our views on him, and we are all entitled to those views. Some hated him, some loved him, some wanted to punch him in the face. Lying to yourself and others about your feelings about him only buries the truth, and Tyler never struck me much as one to let anything remain buried for long.
Feel free to post your thoughts and comments on Tyler as you wish, I certainly won’t judge you for your opinions. And thanks Addy for having the courage to write that article last night, I am sure it wasn’t the easiest of things to do.
Comments
Every time I talked to him he seemed nice, either way he is dead to the game as he will never return, if this is a joke he is dead to me, still. He was never a d*** to me like everyone said he was, but he did seem like one at times.
Outstanding article!
Addy
I agree that he probably just left the game
What Addy said.
You hit it right on the head Etemenanki regarding the issue of rewriting history to venerate the "dead," in a much less confrontational manner than I would have been able to
You write this article talking about people making a big deal about this whole thing while you are making a big deal about people making it into such a big deal.
No, I wrote this article to talk about the fact that we need to be honest about those people whom are "gone" and not just focus on the positive, but acknowledge that they were real human beings, capable of both good and bad things.
That is exactly what I have read in many many tributes to him. The good and the bad (i.e. he was sometimes a bastard, but he still did a lot for eCanada). What I haven't seen is the elevation to sainthood that you mention.
You are downplaying Tylers abilities because you disagree with his ideals.
I supported Tyler in every single one of his 'fights' because he was mostly objective.
We all know hat happens to the objective when the looters have the power.
In agreement with salty and what etemenanki writes in his third paragraph about white washing the past.
Okay, I'll admit that TFD got on my nerves. He could take things too far for the sake of being right, when others would usually hold off out of courtesy. Generally, this would happen to the usual suspects, but you could find yourself in his gunsights (or fistfight, rather) quite unexpectedly if you didn't watch your step. I felt this begin to happen to me in regards to TFD and WGC a bit back.
Even with saying that, my first response to the news still stands. He was a "good buddy" as I learned from his PMs and article banter. He "shared his thoughts honestly," without the filter most of us use.
I'll end off with a quote once used a PM exchange with TFD that I only realize now is a fitting way to new reflect back on eCanada's most striking character:
"The medium is the metaphor."
- Amusing Ourselves to Death by Neil Postman
I had doubts of his death as well. Which is why I haven't commented on any of the articles talking about him, and saying my condolences. If he truly has passed on, I send all my sympathy to his family, and friends and wish them the very best.
I also trust no one, and what they say. I have serious doubts about his 'wife' leaving a message on the eCan forums. While it's nice she let us know, I don't know of anyone who would make an account on a game, just to let people know someone died.
I know if I died, my gf, mother etc. Would not come on here just to tell everyone I passed away. They would tell everyone in RL, but wouldn't log into a game to tell ppl, as it's of no importance since it's just a game.
Personally I never forget what ppl were really like even when they die. Obviously when your around their family etc. You say nice things, otherwise they'll hate you, and you look very ignorant. But outside of that, my feelings stay the same. Granted I had no problems with TFD, and I think he was a great guy.
Either way, if TFD really has passed, I wish 'Marla' and the rest of his friends, and family the best. If he isn't dead, this is a pretty terrible joke to pull on people.
All the best Tyler!
He was a bastard but he was no villain.
http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/he-was-a-bastard-but-he-was-no-villain--1412571/1/20">http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/he-w[..]/1/20
The Canadian political scene grew a bit tiresome the day he decided not to participate. Everyone loves to watch a train wreck
I appreciate this article a ton etamanaki. Quite clever, well written, and honest.
I strongly disbelieve the comments that he would fake such a thing, beliefs based on rational evidence (laughs jokingly at saltydog) and not just blind emotion.
However, I agree the most important point to make of this is that Tyler F Durden is gone. The fate of the man behind the mask is one that many will never know, but Tyler F Durden is dead. Bickering about semantics (yes, I know its politically incorrect to call semantics if a life is in the balance) has no place here. eCanada has lost a player vital to the community, and it should mourn.
I have no problem with Addy's article, other than that he posted it in the damn CPF newspaper. Thats disrespectful, no matter how you look at it.
I may comment more. But thank you again for the nice article.
Hoax?
Citiznen B
Great article, Etemenanki. My first reaction to seeing the news was to want it confirmed, as I as well didn't know what to make of such a message. That said, I don't think a deception like this would be something Tyler would do.
I've never heard of this book, but it sounds interesting. I don't mind venerating the dead, after all, celebrating the great things in one's life doesn't mean you're not willing or capable of acknowledging the negatives. It just means you want to celebrate, and who wants to celebrate the negatives? I think there's been a healthy level of celebration and acknowledgment, I've not read everything, but I've seen a few points that do that, and I think that's good.
Cheers,
AR1ARX