Stages of Power Hungry
Kobble
I thought I’d give out a little help to those select few who might need the help of giving up a little power. I understand that it might be hard, but the community is here for you, if you need us. Please, community extend a helping hand to those in need today. They can't get through this on their own.
DENIAL is the first of the five stages of power hungriness. In this stage, the person becomes delusional and overwhelming. Life makes no sense. We are in a state of shock and denial. We go numb. We wonder how we can go on, if we can go on, why we should go on. We try to find a way to simply get through each day. Denial and shock help us to cope and make survival possible. Denial helps us to pace our feelings of hunger. There is a grace in denial. It is nature’s way of letting in only as much as we can handle. As you accept the reality of the loss and start to ask yourself questions, you are unknowingly beginning the healing process. You are becoming stronger, and the denial is beginning to fade. But as you proceed, all the feelings you were denying begin to surface.
ANGER is a necessary stage of the healing process. Be willing to feel your anger, even though it may seem endless. The more you truly feel it, the more it will begin to dissipate and the more you will heal. There are many other emotions under the anger and you will get to them in time, but anger is the emotion we are most used to managing. The truth is that anger has no limits. It can extend not only to your friends, the doctors, your family, yourself and your loved one who died, but also to God. You may ask, “Where is God in this? Underneath anger is pain, your pain. It is natural to feel deserted and abandoned, but we live in a society that fears anger. Anger is strength and it can be an anchor, giving temporary structure to the nothingness of loss. At first power hungriness feels like being lost at sea: no connection to anything. Then you get angry at someone, maybe a person who didn’t attend the funeral, maybe a person who isn’t around, maybe a person who is different now that your loved one has died. Suddenly you have a structure – – your anger toward them. The anger becomes a bridge over the open sea, a connection from you to them. It is something to hold onto; and a connection made from the strength of anger feels better than nothing.We usually know more about suppressing anger than feeling it. The anger is just another indication of the intensity of your hunger.
BARGAINING Before a loss, it seems like you will do anything if only your power would be spared. “Please God, ” you bargain, “I will never be angry at my wife again if you give me all the virtual power.” After a loss, bargaining may take the form of a temporary truce. “What if I devote the rest of my life to hurting others. Then can I wake up and realize this has all been a bad dream?” We become lost in a maze of “If only…” or “What if…” statements. We want life returned to what is was; we want our power restored. We want to go back in time: find the tumor sooner, recognize the illness more quickly, stop the accident from happening…if only, if only, if only. Guilt is often bargaining’s companion. The “if onlys” cause us to find fault in ourselves and what we “think” we could have done differently. We may even bargain with the pain. We will do anything not to feel the pain of this hunger. We remain in the past, trying to negotiate our way out of the hurt. People often think of the stages as lasting weeks or months. They forget that the stages are responses to feelings that can last for minutes or hours as we flip in and out of one and then another. We do not enter and leave each individual stage in a linear fashion. We may feel one, then another and back again to the first one.
DEPRESSION After bargaining, our attention moves squarely into the present. Empty feelings present themselves, and power hungriness enters our lives on a deeper level, deeper than we ever imagined. This depressive stage feels as though it will last forever. It’s important to understand that this depression is not a sign of mental illness. It is the appropriate response to a great hunger. We withdraw from life, left in a fog of intense sadness, wondering, perhaps, if there is any point in going on alone? Why go on at all? Depression after a loss is too often seen as unnatural: a state to be fixed, something to snap out of. The first question to ask yourself is whether or not the situation you’re in is actually depressing. The loss of power is a very depressing situation, and depression is a normal and appropriate response. To not experience depression after loss of power would be usual. When a loss fully settles in your soul, the realization that your power didn’t get better this time and is not coming back is understandably depressing. If grief is a process of healing, then depression is one of the many necessary steps along the way.
ACCEPTANCE is often confused with the notion of being “all right” or “OK” with what has happened. This is not the case. Most people don’t ever feel OK or all right about the loss of power. This stage is about accepting the reality that our power is physically gone and recognizing that this new reality is the permanent reality. We will never like this reality or make it OK, but eventually we accept it. We learn to live with it. It is the new norm with which we must learn to live. We must try to live now in a world where our power is missing. In resisting this new norm, at first many people want to maintain life as it was before a loved one died. In time, through bits and pieces of acceptance, however, we see that we cannot maintain the past intact. It has been forever changed and we must readjust. We must learn to reorganize roles, re-assign them to others or take them on ourselves. Finding acceptance may be just having more good days than bad ones. As we begin to live again and enjoy our life, we often feel that in doing so, we are betraying ourselves. We can never replace what has been lost, but we can make new connections, new meaningful relationships, new inter-dependencies. Instead of denying our feelings, we listen to our needs; we move, we change, we grow, we evolve. We may start to reach out to others and become involved in their lives. We invest in our friendships and in our relationship with ourselves. We begin to live again, but we cannot do so until we have given grief it's time.
I’d also like to make one last mention of how certain people in government feel about people with other opinions and other parties.
They tried to attack my integrity by my association with a certain party. Laughing my comments off because I am a Black Sheep, as if my opinion is discredited because of that.
Not to mention, they first assumed I was SFP and tried to use that to attack my integrity.
I won’t name names. They know who they are.
I think it's time for change to come about and it sure as hell ain't going to happen with the current hegemony. There are choice out there and you're all free to choose.
I however throw my hat in with the Black Sheep Party, maybe you will too.
Baaa.
Comments
At least the SFP has the courage to think for themselves and break with the regimented structure of the elites.
All you do is cause more trouble for everyone they never should have let you back in to the country.
I think you’ll find that “they” didn’t. CG uses a multi to enter congress at the same time as starting a revolution (remember the dark days of “defensive” dictatorship?). During the brief period of democratic freedom he granted himself citizenship.
What Ilean says is true.
He had a multi in SFP, sadly got into,Congress and gave himself citizenship
Marquis de Foxes or whatever he called himself.
He is in SFP because there is no game mechanism to kick him to the gutter where CG belongs.
He does not speak for our Party.
He is just a lonely fool.
Lol I believe it sounds like a CG move.
Wrong. You should have let him back. Otherwise, he would've stayed in Japan and continued causing troubles there 🙂
Back when CG was using Marquis de Foxes to grant himself citizenship, SFP was warned that MdF was a CG multi but they ran him into congress anyway because they were too stubborn to bend their own rules for the sake of good National order. So I most definitely blame SFP for the presence of this player who has zero compunction.
I still can not see any proof of these claims. All I see is known liars throwing dirt at another comrade.
You are disgusting.
LLene you are spreading fake news. I don't cheat, I have never cheated. Very dishonest comment.
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Can’t see your pictures, sorry.
neither do I ...
When I can, I'll try to use a different source and put the link as well.
Good luck to you and BSP.
As well to you, friend.
I think The Black Sheep are pressing the argument needed in public in a straightforward respectfully opposition, especially to economic policy and transparency. Thank you for your contribution.
Respect the Sheep!
When someone in a government doesn't accept other opinions it isn't a democratic person. Diversity does strengthen a community, because discussions are needed before a good decision can be made. When opposition is treated badly then I fear for that nation.
Respect the Sheep! o7
Exactly. Especially since this individual was a high ranking fed in the executive.
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Good one!
Respect the Black Sheep!
[SFP] Will this political corruption ever end?
erepublik.com/en/article/2659605
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I don't know why being BSP or SFP would be an insult, because it sure as hell isn't an insult to be a part of BSP for me. I'm proud of having my own opinion and so are all the other people a part of the two parties.
I also don't understand how not going on the forums that are controlled by the hegemonic party in power is an insult as well. It baffles me.
Great article
Dear Kobble, do you remember our conversation when you just started playing?
I'm glad to see that you have found a party that mirrors your views & I admire you for the great effort you've put into the writing of this article.
I support your views with only one difference: you state that the opposing political groups should reach out to the corrupt elite in order to bring a change.
I don't believe it is possible.
I advocate a complete ragtime-change without teaming up with them.
The reasoning: you cannot cooperate with crooked & corrupt individuals who lie, steal & bash different thinking people - it simply isn't possible.
In order to see this as a possibility, THEY need to come clean, they NEED to accept their mistakes, they need to APOLOGIZE to the nation, they need to CHANGE their conduct & even their whole MINDSET.
I don't believe that this will ever happen.
Wish you much success & hope I will read some mor of your writings in the near future!
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Of course I remember. Although that part was meant more as a joke, I do believe there is always room for reform.
I think you should have a listen to this, same artist, but a remix, hope you like it!
Happy holidays !
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*regime
Nice article.