Together we can change
Day 2,620, 13:17
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by Sinon
Hello everyone!
Lately there has been a lot of media-coverage around bullying in my RL country, Norway. As such I've decided that I want to contribute in my own way yo hopefully help people around the world. As such, I also hope that you, whom are currently reading this, will help me spread this around the world through eRep
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Now, I cannot say that everyone have been bullied before, as there are those lucky people whom haven't experienced such hell. Nor can I say that all those having been bullied have the same knowledge as me, as different people have different stories and experiences. The one thing I am dead-certain of, is that any person whom have really been bullied will recall those times as a hellish time.
So when you read or hear the words (bullying) or (bullied), what comes to your mind? A weak guy getting dumped in the trash? A girl being talked badly about behind her back? A crybaby of a kid whom got their lunch money stolen by a group of people blackmailing them?
When I come across that word, I think about all the times I got beaten up by a group of three people, whom waited for me after school just to "have fun". I remember how I thought of them as the only people that would bother to be my "friends" and continued to play around in their palms, not being able to see anything but hatred. I remember the times when people choked me just to release their anger somewhere, or that one time where I was locked inside a container filled with the powder from a fire-extinguisher until I nearly fainted, just to be met with laughing faces telling me it was all a fun joke.
Today people know me as a kindhearted guy whom looks after people when they are in trouble and is a pain in the ass to those of his friends whom doesn't take care of themselves well enough. A guy whom has wise words and is helpful and strong in so many ways. Yet I sit here day after day, trembling in front of a computer, with a upset stomach almost every night, almost unable to really move forward in life and leave the past behind. I get paranoid and imagine the most horrible things happening at any minute, any second, throughout the day. I try to trust people all the time, but end up mostly trusting only in myself in the end.
Whenever I see myself, I feel miserable. I just want to tear away myself from the mirror and rip myself apart. And everyday routines? Forget it, just standing in a line in a store can make me sweat a lot, my pulse rush like hell and my heart beat so fast that it feels like I'm having a heart-attack or something. Still I have to bear with it daily and hope that one day these feelings will disappear, that one day I can feel like a "normal" person.
This is what bullying leads to. This is what the victims have to suffer maybe throughout their entire life. And this is what I want to put an end to, while helping as many of those whom are suffering in the same or similar ways.
Help me put an end to a world where differences result in suffering. Help me create a world where we can all live our lives just the way we want to ourselves, not the way others force us to with fear as their weapon. Stand strong, stand united, stand among the weak and show the world that being weak doesn't make anyone any less valuable.
Yours truly,
Sinon
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Together we can change
http://www.erepublik.com/en/article/2490124/1/20
Very well spoken my friend.
Well said~
It takes guts to be upfront about this kind of a situation..even online.
I've changed from an extremely extroverted person to an introvert. Something like a emotional burnout..but from a completely different reasons than you.
Well written article.
I take the complete opposite viewpoint. If you allow others words to effect your real life you are weak.
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.
We all have our ways of life and our scars, but let me remind you that bullying isn't about just words, but also violence. In my case I've suffered from both, which made me weak, while also strong in some ways. Not being afraid of telling my story is one of my strong points, while facing life without a friend next to me is so frightening that I feel like I'm almost fainting.
And if you put yourself in a situation where you are really young, you are also easily influenced by what other people tell you. So if someone tells you that you're fat and ugly and should just die, would you not begin to believe them as well? Here we are talking about what people may experience already as 4-6 years old kids. I would think that at least 90%, if not 99-100%, of all children that young would believe what people tell them. And the same would probably go for like 70-80% of all the world's teenagers (13-16), so calling them all weak would not be correct from my point of view.
I understand your point of view. I never worried about what others thought. I guess some people do.
Reading suggestions:
Koe no Katachi
Onanie Master Kurosawa (doujin quality, but a great story)
You may mean well, but telling others they are weak will not help them become strong. People need to know that they are valued and loved, and bullying, particularly for small children, can shatter that knowledge. Not everyone has the strength at birth to resist coercion.
For my part, I would retreat into my own head in childhood, so the taunting and insults never affected me the way they did some others, but, telling oneself that the mean-spirited bullies are at fault only goes so far. The fact that someone wants to inflict pain still stings. In hindsight I know they were also children who did not know any better... but it was still enough to make a good portion of grade school into hell.
Maybe, instead of telling us we are weak, you might tell us how to become strong? That advice might just reach the younger ones who now most need it.
Mental toughness is something anyone can develop. The only person who you can change is yourself.
people dont change themselves, only what they do
also people are the sum of all life experiences, first few years are vital for defining lifes preset dispositions etc etc
o/
Thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability and your pain. I know we all can gain strength from it.
You can change your sex, but situation in eJap you simple cant.
And true Japanese dont share their pain or express emotions.
YOU ARE NOT JAPANESE.
PS Vilo, da li su ti porasle sise?
Ne, još sam mlada
Teši se teši 😘
Hehe, that's funny because todays Japanese are known express more emotions and share their pain more than most of the people of the west.
No, that is not a Japanese tradition.
So please leave Japan and go to US!
Meh, I'll stay here instead 😛